I think one of the challenges in life is to accept where we are on our chosen path. Of course, we can change the course direction anytime. But without really accepting where we are, it can feel like you´re chasing life.
Never feeling happy about your current situation. Wishing you were already there. In the next place or circumstance in your life where everything is better, brighter and richer.
But if you change the way you´re heading to escape from where you are now, you´re not going to feel any better when you arrive at the next destination. Changing your circumstances, like the place you live in, partners, clothes, friends will feel like a quick fix.
Until the enthusiasm wears off and you´re back to square one.
You need to know where you are right now, inside yourself, and fully embrace all that is. Sounds like some guru or even general talk?
In running training we can often find ourselves thinking: oh, I wish I was already there. Being faster, better, fitter and healthier.
Meaning you´re in resonance with thoughts of 'not enough'.
Not fit enough, fast enough,..not, never ENOUGH. The more you fuel these thoughts, the more of what you don´t want you will attract.
So how do you get over there?
Be where you are. Right here. Not in the future or dwelling on the past.
Only by accepting where you are. Because then you can fully feel and be present. Listening and observing what´s going on around you.
1. When you run, become aware of how your feet touch the ground. How you move your whole body. Your shoulder rotation, think of all the muscles involved. Use your eyes, ears, all your senses to wake up to what you see and hear.
2. As you start your day and begin with the most important tasks. Switch off any distractions. Be fully present on one task at a time. Take mini-breaks to recharge.
3. Have a little gratitude practice. Each day, think of three(!), only three things you´re thankful for. Write them down or speak them out. I usually write them in my journal or after a short prayer in the morning, I´ll say out loud what and who I am grateful for. It puts me right in the moment, knowing everything IS okay.
That place of power will lead you to make new decisions and enjoy what is now. It is never about the outcome but the process.
Says me, someone who always used to be so caught up in wishing myself somewhere else. I would change circumstances, sometimes very rapidly, when really, life did not become any better after the initial fix.
The next challenge arose and I felt caught in a spiral of doing so much and yet never feeling that I reaped the rewards from putting in so much effort. There always seemed to be a missing link to living a more meaningful and happier life.
So much of how I felt in those periods of my life had to do with clinging on to the outcome. Focusing on an assumed end result I wished to achieve.
During a session with a mentor she asked me: so how do I get to your place? I asked: where exactly are you? And she replied: I´m right outside the airport so where do I go next?
And I began to describe the route that would take her from A to B, including all the roads and turns she´d need to take.
Without her information that she was in place A, I could not have given her a description to my place. And she´d need to start getting to my place by being fully aware of where she was. Or she´d get lost.
Knowing where you are and accepting that place is key to progressing through life with more easy, joy and clarity. And self-acceptance a whole different story, or maybe not so different.
Share with me what you do to be more present? Do you have any practices or little rituals to help you be more grounded? Just write your thoughts in the comments below.