Two years ago, I began my in-depth journey into the online business coaching world. I had signed up for an online program that contained many modules and also included a monthly group call.
I remember how enthusiastic I felt when I began to set up a super tight and strict schedule. In one of her super glamorous and professional videos, the head coach talked about routines and practices. I followed everything to the book. Like I was on automatic mode. I would journal in the morning followed my a long meditation or vice versa. Then I´d do my training, go to work because at the time I was employed, a single mum and tried so hard to fit it all in.
I believe you are familiar with the overload problem. Wanting to squeeze it all in. Time with the family, the partner, with friends, attending to hobbies, having down-time and not to mention going to the gym and following a running training plan.
It didn´t take long before I got really tired. I felt so caged into my routine even though I scheduled extra chunks of reading or TV time. And everywhere I looked, other people talked about their practices, too. I was living in a weird world at the time and pushed hard nearly every day.
And I didn´t actually make a lot of progress compared to all the hours I was investing which was frustrating. It took me a while to figure out why.
Many people are caught up in this spiral of investing a lot of time into a project like a race or specific run, and then not achieving the goal.
These 2 main beliefs could a reason:
1. Work hard
2. No pain, no gain.
What if it´s the opposite and ease is a key factor to your success?
Just recently, I took this free online test. It´s for free and you should check it out. It was such an eye-opener. Gretchen Rubin found out that there are four main tendencies each of us can be categorized in. Of course, there are variables and it doesn´t mean you´re set in stone. At the basis, the test gives you clues about how you respond to your own expectations and those of others.
What´s your tendency?
Turns out I have a Rebel tendency. I excel when I can freely create my time and don´t like to follow something because it´s the thing to do. Which is why often and for many people, training plans only work to a certain degree. I´ve worked with people who did the opposite or cancelled their runs because they felt obliged to follow the plan.
The rebel wants to be his or her own boss. It´s where a huge portion of self-motivation is needed to follow through on something. Rebels love to try new things and stay open to change if it makes sense to them.
Then there is the Questioner, the Obliger and the Upholder. See for yourself what insights the free quiz can give you.
In my work with clients I provide the framework of running training and using it as a part of transformation that happen along other areas of life. Running is not exclusive. I give you ideas about the different types of running sessions and work out an idea that helps you approach your specific goal with more ease, clarity and confidence. It´s an offer of experimenting for yourself and discovering what works for you.
Coming back to the routines and practices.
After reflecting and ditching quite a few of them, I feel I know much better now what works best for me. I meditate because it makes me feel good and I am much more present throughout my day. If I feel like sitting down for 10 minutes, I will do so. If it´s 20, I´ll do that. And if it´s 5, then fine. I read when I feel drawn to a certain article or a movie or report or video or whatever it may be.
You can have structure and still feel free. Create the framework first and leave room to explore and change what doesn´t fit or serve you anymore.
If you have a running goal, like running a marathon, the framework would be to schedule 3-4 runs per week, 1-2 long runs, one shorter, intense session and one easy run for your peace of mind. Decide when you can best fit the runs in. Don´t get obsessed with trying to be perfect or sticking to the schedule to the minute. Build on the framework.
Your commitment matters and keeps your framework stable.
And once you know what your tendency is, you can gain a deeper and better understanding of how to approach your goals. It´s fun.
Do you follow a specific routine? Let me know what works and doesn´t work for you? would love to hear from you in the comments.